If you have dealt with narcissists you have probably had a great deal of down time: trodden and frustrated by them due to their nature of belittling peers and sense of entitlement. With these character traits we all know it is impossible to make such a person miserable or sorry but this is how to do it.
- DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THEM.
Narcissists feed on attention and if you give it to them, you are brewing their ego. Whether negative or positive acknowledgement, keep it to yourself. In fact they prefer negative attention because it shows you are focusing on what they are doing, which is wrong most times. They cannot stand when no one is paying attention to them. They do not know how to survive without feeling special or the centre of the universe, so, to make them feel miserable, do not give that to them.
2. USE FACTS WHEN SPEAKING
When most narcissists speak, the language is charged with grandiose emotion and they believe that their truth is the real truth; which is not mostly. They spend time watching other peoples’ emotional patterns and using it to their advantage. So, if you use facts they understand that they have a less upper hand and this, they hate. They know how to behave in a way that there is something wrong with you and that you need to be concerned about it. They will use every imaginable angle especially verbally to make you feel worthless. Be factual.
3. BE AUTHORITATIVE
Narcissists detest authority and answering to someone. They find authority to be threatening their desires for power and control. They are mostly found to be combative and unfit in professional environments. If confronted by their inappropriate behaviour, they deny or rationalise their part. Being authoritative to narcissists will always make them feel restricted.
4. TRY PUBLIC HUMILIATION
Narcissists cannot handle real or perceived public humiliation; they cannot tolerate the threat of failure, leave alone public humiliation. To them, it is form of defeat and it is unheard of. They have very fragile egos and breaking them is the utmost point of breaking their lives.
5. USE YOUR CLARITY AND PUT YOURSELF FIRST
Narcissists hate the idea of you thinking about yourself first. They will charm you with their cognitive empathy and make you feel all special but they never want you to think about yourself. If you do they will react and attempt to break your heart and sabotage you. They will make you doubt your capabilities and motives. They aim at programming your mind so that they can maintain their status quo. Be clear and maintain your clarity.
Recovering from narcissistic abuse is not an easy task and you can always seek professional help. You can find profession support from Angels Paradise Counselling clinic: call 0724179288