To a beauty reference like you, the friendzone sounds like an alien concept cut out for the bougie and cool kids of today. In fact, it sounds like a myth marinated in mystery. Unfortunately for you, the friendzone is a real thing. It is frustrating to like someone and envision them to be your knight in shining armor but they treat you like a sister from another mother.
The friendzone is a subtle way of rejection. In most cases, you might have unintentionally pulled yourself into the dreaded box by presenting yourself in a way that your romantic interest doesn’t see you as anything else but a friend.
Luckily for you, I have compiled a list of how you are self-sabotaging your romantic interest.
- You’re Too Independent!
Don’t get me wrong, a miss independent is a force to reckon. I mean who doesn’t admire a lady who cruises in a sleek Audi and pays her own bills? While having your own back is a good thing, it’s also important to trigger a hero instinct in your romantic interest.
This means that you need to let that chocolate guy you’re interested in to feel like they are both needed and wanted by you. Make him feel like the pillar that holds you together when you’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed. In simple words, please be a princess in distress at all times!
2. You Listen to His Girl Problems
I know you’re a good listener and no one can rival your tender caring heart. But, becoming the love medicine to all and sundry is cute only until your romantic interest comes to tell you about that blonde, guiltily curvy girl they went on a date with.
I do not want to imagine the platinum tears you will be shading when that situation catches up with you. Please do know that listening to your crush’s girl problems cements your role as the listener and comforter. Remember the aim is to be the girl they talk about not to.
3. You’re Too Available
Except for a romantic context, being available all the time will increase your chances of being boxed in the friendzone. When you build a portfolio of someone who eagerly replies to the text messages, returns calls and runs errands for your romantic interest, your points to become his queen slowly deteriorate to become the errand girl. Try to be scarce a little and give him some room to miss you.
4. You Agree with Everything They Say
I get it. You just want to be on their good chapters by avoiding arguments and unnecessary banter. Being a sounding board doesn’t boost your gangster points. You have a mind of your own and airing your opinions in black and white is okay. Let your intellectual acuity play out for your good. Challenge their banter with your point of view. This will spark curiosity and interest in your romantic interest.
5. You’re Not Showing Romantic Interest
The reason you are getting friend zoned is because you have not expressed any interest. Your prospective partner maybe interested in you but they are waiting for you to make a move. Tell you what, before the friendship becomes too familiar, indulge in some flirting and playfulness to let them know you’re interested in pursuing more.
You’re not made of stone hence you need to wear your feelings on your cuffs. After all, what’s the worst that could happen?
